Conversations

Conversation without Price is a social exchange; Conversation with Price is an introduction to dynamic results. To achieve greatness, consider the Price and offer it for Acceptance.

We all love to talk.

Yes; some more than others.

The expressions of our thoughts, opinions, and stories give definition to who we are.

More than that, by expression, we fully feel our existence and a desire to share that aliveness.

Acknowledging the value of every conversation, there are only two types:

Conversation without Price is a social exchange.

Conversation with Price is an introduction to dynamic results.

Every syllable, sentence, and paragraph of personal conversations is of benefit in acknowledging the value of two individuals: the Talker and the Listener. Since communication is what the listener does, the social exchange works best with feedback. The listener becomes the talker and returns a volley of thought.

All we do begins with a thought.

What is required to transform thoughts into actions?

Answer: Price.

There are only two elements of any contract: Mutual Assent and Consideration. In other words, there must be an Agreement about Price.

What’s the difference between Cost and Price?

We’ve all heard of “Opportunity Cost.” I propose that we take a look at the other side of the coin, which is “Actionable Price.”

It is true; we are encouraged to “count the cost” before we begin. Otherwise, we begin things without finishing them. We, then, become the objects of ridicule for the sidewalk superintendents.

It’s one thing to avoid failure. It’s quite another to pursue success.

Costs are the inputs, the disposables, and the everyday consumption of resources. For example: utility expenditures to keep our homes comfortable. Price is the investment in a long-term benefit, which is either tangible, or intangible. For example: the asset of our homes; or, our educations, experiences, and relationships.

We can suffer Costs by passively doing, absolutely, nothing. In fact, opportunities can come and go, inflicting a heavy cost on body and soul. Or, we can run around in circles, with our hair on fire, billowing black smoke, and incurring tremendous amounts of expense, with absolutely nothing to show for the effort.

On the other side of the coin is the Price we pay for every action. By choosing this, we forgo that (all of that, every other option). Over time, the Price of our choices represents the investment we have made in ourselves and what is important to us. It is the value representation of every brick in the structure of who we are.

Whether simple cabin, or splendid mansion, we are the result of every choice we, individually, have made.

All we do begins with a thought.

Now, when sharing our thoughts with others in conversation, remember:

Conversation without Price is a social exchange.

Conversation with Price is an introduction to dynamic results.

We can banter to our hearts content. To accomplish the desires of our hearts, we must always consider the Price and offer it for Acceptance.

Then, we can expect mutually beneficial dynamic results. The catalyst for committed and disciplined actions are the two elements of mutual assent and consideration; an Agreement about Price.

Let the conversations begin!

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Simply Complex

A forum for sharing thought has become a journal of adventure. Rough on the outside, rich on the inside; treasure waits for those who will cut and polish the core of these messages.

Diamond 3-D BrillianceArtisans give new life to the old perspective by capturing the essence of a single focal point.

The complexity and chaos of the ordinary is simplified into an expression of the divine.

The masterpieces of great art forms are discernible by one simple test. They appear magnificent: at close-up and from far-away.

By broad stroke and precise finish, tangible raw material is transformed into a reflection of the intangible thought, conveyed from the artist to the beholder.

What once was crude and unrefined becomes beautiful and polished.

Such is the journey of a diamond.

Formed in the center of the earth at high-pressure, high-temperature conditions and forced to the surface by a volcanic eruption, an ordinary rock in appearance becomes a priceless treasure.

The name diamond is derived from the ancient Greek αδάμας (adámas), “proper”, “unalterable”, “unbreakable”, “untamed”, from ἀ- (a-), “un-” + δαμάω (damáō), “I overpower”, “I tame”.

Diamond is the hardest known natural material on the Mohs scale of mineral hardness. This has been known since antiquity and is the source of its name. Somewhat related to hardness is another mechanical property: toughness, which is a material’s ability to resist breakage from forceful impact.

Diamond is renowned as a material with superlative physical qualities, most of which originate from the strong covalent bonding between its atoms into an inflexible three-dimensional lattice, protecting it from contamination. Diamond has the highest hardness and thermal conductivity of any bulk material.

Diamond has remarkable optical characteristics. Combined with wide transparency, this results in the clear, colorless appearance of most natural diamonds. Diamond also has relatively high optical dispersion (ability to disperse light of different colors), which results in its characteristic luster.

At the beginning of this thirty year adventure as a CPA entrepreneur, I was sitting in a Continuing Education Seminar and the presenter asked us to do the following: Draw a Triangle at the top of a page; underneath that, draw a Square; underneath that, draw a Rectangle; underneath that, draw a Circle; and, finally, underneath that, draw a Wavy Line.

Then, he asked us to place a Checkmark next to the image which best reflected our personality.

After a brief pause, he continued. The wavy lines are the Free-spirits. The circles are the Friendlies. The rectangles are the Worker-bees. The squares are Upper-management. The triangles are …

In his words: There are a few of you leaning back in your chair, with your arms folded across your chest, thinking, “I could do that. In fact, I could do that better.” They are the innovators, leaders and visionaries.

I laughed, because he had just described my posture and read my mind. And, my Checkmark was pointing at the pinnacle of the Triangle.

Do we come hard-wired into this world? Or, is our twig bent, in the formative years, to produce the fruits of our efforts, today? I don’t know.

From the comments of Family and Friends, this is what I do know:

“Kim, you ask so many questions, I’m sure you’re going to grow up to be a Philadelphia lawyer!”

“Kim, your problem is not that you were born poor. Your problem is that you were born with ambition. Many are born poor and stay that way. You want something else.”

“It’s rare to get cowboy poetry from a CPA, so thanks again Kim for making our day. More importantly, congratulations to you for having an open mind, looking for a better way, and contributing to the dignity of our profession by doing the right thing for your customers.”

Average is not a way of thinking, or behaving, for me. I respect and honor the right of others to be a commodity. My frustration will be on display for those who think that I should accept Average as my standard. Never have; never will.

With the belief that each individual is a priceless gem, my choice of stone is the Diamond: proper, unalterable, unbreakable, untamed, hard, tough, inflexibly three-dimensional, thermally conducive, widely transparent, optically dispersible, predictably exhibiting trigons of positive and negative relief.

This is the 100th Blog Post Anniversary Edition of SageTalk ~ Building Dynamic Relationships. What began as a forum for sharing thought has become a journal of adventure. Rough on the outside, rich on the inside; treasure awaits for those souls who will cut and polish the core of these messages.

We all have a unique perspective.

Mine is simply complex.

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A Penny Doubled

If you were offered 1 Million Dollars, today; or, 1 Penny, with the opportunity to double it for 31 days; which would you choose?

A Penny DoubledIf you were offered 1 Million Dollars, today; or, 1 Penny, with the opportunity to double it for 31 days; which would you choose? We all do it; we go for the immediate gratification and forfeit 9 Million Dollars!

Granted, instant wealth is a secret fantasy of us, all. The next best dream entertained is to receive compound interest on a passive investment. Least favorite is to, actually and actively, earn our way to wealth.

Since the odds of winning a lottery are slim to none and interest rates are little better, let’s take a look at the return on smart thinking and hard work. Passive investments hope to earn a percentage on what already is. Active efforts yield bountiful harvests from the whole seed, planted for the benefit of future growth.

Real treasure has nothing to do with money and everything to do with the lessons learned on the journey of Life.

Speaking of which, a rich Fellow had business obligations in a far away country. Before leaving, He entrusted money to three of his servants in proportion to their abilities. Two of them went to work and earned double what they were given. The third one dug a hole and hid the gift.

Upon the rich fellow arriving home, the servants were asked, individually and separately, to give an account of how they had used the money. Two of them replied, “Master, you gave me wealth to invest and I have earned double the amount.”

Their master was full of praise and to each of them said, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.You have been faithful in handling this small amount; so, now, I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!”

The third one recognized the Farmer Philosophy inherent in the principle of the matter; yet, did nothing to increase the principal of that within his sphere of influence. His response, “I was afraid I would lose your money, so I hid it in the earth. Look, here is your money back.”

No percentage. No harvest. No celebration.

After the disrespectful excuses and tepid tirade, the fearful one was quizzed by the benefactor, “Why didn’t you deposit my money in the bank? At least I could have gotten some interest on it.”

It’s not about the money. It is, all, about the lessons learned on this journey of Life.

You see, the rich fellow didn’t really care about the money, or the percentage of its increase. He was more interested in providing opportunities for growth. That only happens by smart thinking and hard work.

Then, he ordered, “Take the money from the lazy one and give it to the one who harvested the most. To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given; and, they will have an abundance. But, from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away.”

All, we do, begins with a thought and the fun is in the doing!

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Pleasant Conversation

The pleasant conversation of a friend can nudge us from the ruts of our repetitive thought patterns to enlighten, empower, and encourage us to more positive actions.

Pleasant ConversationThere is a way to know what is at the core of a person: Listen, carefully, to what they say.

The adage is true, “What we say flows from what is in our heart.”

We guard our hearts by fixing our thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable.

A choice is made to, only, think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

Anyone professing to espouse LOVE will sound like a bubbling stream of these seven attributes.

Patient: The accomplished Masters of patience know that communication is what the listener does. There is a silence between our last words and their reply. They listen to every bit of what we have to say, before sharing their thoughts.

Kind: A four letter word brought to life by those who “Know Inherently Nice Delights”. Small demonstrations of generosity and loyalty bring smiles to all. These practitioners believe in the physician’s creed of “Cause No Harm.”

Rejoices with the Truth: Happiness added to Honesty, literally, makes us want to dance!

Protects: The purveyors of protection understand the importance of preserving confidence. Secrets are safe with them; Solutions are discovered in their embrace; and, they are a Sanctuary from the storms of life.

Trusts: When push comes to shove, those who have our back are worth their weight in gold. In fact, because they believe in the Golden Rule, we can trust that they will do everything, exactly, as they said. Their word is our bond, priceless in value and peace of mind.

Hopes: In the center between Faith and Charity, this is the anchor for our soul. With an abundance of hope, all things are possible. Lessons from the Past are acknowledged; each moment of the Present is enjoyed; and, the Future is anticipated with fascination and curiosity.

Perseveres: Much more than never giving up, this is a chosen purposeful effort, often done in the face of fear, to nurture our own growth, and the growth of others. It is demonstrated as the steadfast determination of willpower to, always, do what is right.

Why is Pleasant Conversation so, very, important? Because, all we do begins with a thought. Whether we think we can, or can’t, we’re right. The pleasant conversation of a friend can nudge the needle past the broken-record groove of our repetitive thought patterns to enlighten, empower, and encourage us to more positive actions.

That same friend can lead a conversation to new horizons of discovery, which provide opportunities for growth in thought and deed. As iron sharpens iron, friends sharpen friends; until, we find ourselves on the cutting-edge of Love and the leading-edge of Pleasant Conversation!

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All We Do

All we do begins with a thought. Thoughts lead to actions; Actions develop into habits; Habits accumulate into character; and, Character becomes our Destiny. Guard your thoughts!

ThoughtWhether we think we can, or think we can’t, we’re right.

All we do begins with a thought.

How powerful is a thought? A negative thought can bind a mind and body in ways superior to physical restraints. A positive thought can be the catalyst to propel beyond the physical, into realms beyond the wildest imaginations.

At some time in our life, we have all walked into a closed door. Maybe, it was as a youngster learning about patio and screen doors. Maybe, it was in the middle of the night in navigation to the bathroom. Remember the combination of logic and feeling rushing from the experience?  Oh, wow!  That hurt.

Now, think of your last encounter with a closed mind. Same deal, right?

If a person has arrived at their beliefs in an objective journey of discovery to discern what is best for them as an individual, that closed mind can be respected, as an honest container of beliefs. If a person has been manipulated into a belief system for the benefit of someone else, that closed mind is a danger to the individual, and others.

Let’s take a quick look at Belief Systems and Mind Control.

Why Bad Beliefs Don’t Die

Because senses and beliefs are both tools for survival, our brain considers them to be separate but equally important purveyors of survival information. The loss of either one endangers us. Without our senses we could not know about the world within our perceptual realm. Without our beliefs we could not know about the world outside our senses or about meanings, reasons, or causes.

This means that beliefs are designed to operate independent of sensory data. In fact, the whole survival value of beliefs is based on their ability to persist in the face of contradictory evidence. Beliefs are not supposed to change easily or simply in response to disconfirming evidence. If they did, they would be virtually useless as tools for survival.

As far as our brain is concerned, there is absolutely no need for data and belief to agree. They are designed to be able to disagree.

When data and belief come into conflict, the brain does not automatically give preference to data. This is why beliefs — even bad beliefs, irrational beliefs, silly beliefs, or crazy beliefs — often, don’t die in the face of contradictory evidence. The brain doesn’t care whether or not the belief matches the data. It cares whether the belief is helpful for survival. Period.

Coercive Psychological Systems

Coercion is defined as, “to restrain or constrain by force…” Legally it often implies the use of PHYSICAL FORCE or physical or legal threat. This traditional concept of coercion is far better understood than the technological concepts of “coercive persuasion” which are effective restraining, impairing, or compelling through the gradual application of PSYCHOLOGICAL FORCES.

The advances in the extreme anxiety and emotional stress production technologies, found in coercive persuasion, supersede old-style coercion that focuses on pain, torture, drugs, or threat — in that, these older systems do not change attitude, so subjects follow orders ‘willingly.’ Coercive persuasion changes both attitude AND behavior, not JUST behavior.

Programs have in common the elements of attempting to greatly modify a person’s self-concept, perceptions of reality, and interpersonal relations. When successful in inducing these changes, coercive thought reform programs also, among other things, create the potential forces necessary for exercising undue influence over a person’s independent decision-making ability.

Coercive persuasion programs are effective — because, individuals experiencing the deliberately planned severe stresses they generate can only reduce the pressures by accepting the system, or adopting the behaviors being promulgated by the purveyors of the coercion program. The relationship between the person and the coercive persuasion tactics are DYNAMIC — in that, while the force of the pressures, rewards, and punishments brought to bear on the person are considerable, they do not lead to a stable, meaningfully SELF-CHOSEN reorganization of beliefs, or attitudes.

Relationships come in a myriad of forms: one-on-one with another person, individual with group, spouse with spouse, and child with parent. While each combination will have unique dynamics, there are universal themes inherent to all relationships. The factors at work to mold the minds of cult members are similar to those used by men to control their wives, women to change their husbands, and parents to alienate children.

When there is a combination of Bad Beliefs and Coercive Persuasion at work in minds, the result is — FEAR and WAIT.

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In other words, Paralysis by Analysis based entirely on Lies.

While giving full consideration to the principles — Patience is a virtue and Discretion is the better part of valor, I suggest we examine the foundation of our beliefs and muster the courage to take bold steps, forward.

Are YOU afraid to make mistakes?

The ‘whiners’ of the world are the only ones who have never made a mistake. Just listen to them. In their minds and statements, they assure themselves and everyone else that they have done everything perfectly. If, only, the world had agreed with them, placated them, understood them, and otherwise given into (and, given more to) them, they could be recognized for the Saints they believe themselves to be.

On the other hand, the truly successful men and women of the world have made many mistakes, learned from them, and grown into leaders of industry and builders of relationships.

Are YOU, still, reluctant to change?

Consider this — We go where we look.

There’s a story about a stretch of Interstate highway in Kansas. It is straight as an arrow across the flat land of farms on either side. In the wintertime, the snow blows across the highway to form a four-lane skating rink. The only thing of danger to the cars sliding off the highway is a power-line running parallel.

Since 8 out of 10 cars were smacking poles, a Kansas state trooper took it upon himself to discover “Why“. Because, the odds were better that they missed the poles and hit open space.

As he interviewed the drivers of those cars — with noses freshly pressed against a pole — he asked them, “Do you remember what you were thinking as you left the highway?” Every one of them answered, “Oh, yes sir. I was thinking that I surely didn’t want to hit one of those poles.”

All we do begins with a thought.

A negative thought about “not” doing something is as powerful as a positive thought about doing the very same thing. You see, those Kansas drivers were thinking about the poles, as they looked right at them and, eventually, wrapped their cars around one.

All we do begins with a thought.

Thoughts lead to actions; Actions develop into habits; Habits accumulate into character; and, Character becomes our Destiny.

Let’s lift our heads from the drudgery of toil, raise our eyes to the broad horizon of opportunities, choose a bright path to travel, surround ourselves with cheerful people, and experience a fresh sensation of soaring spirits.

Whether you think you can, or can’t, you’re right!

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Two Things

When does One plus One equal more than Two? A fellow from ages past asked for these Two Things which can make our present a true gift!

Two Things

In the course of a journey of fifty-five years and serving the public for thirty of them, a simple discovery has been made.

While the hand of Fate is a constant presence in our life, a variable within our control is the power to believe and choose whether we do, or don’t; will, or won’t.

Much more important than the empire built is discovering that the fun is in the doing.

For the last two years, we have all experienced a New Normal. From financial to societal, things are much different, now. On the other hand is the premise: There is nothing new under the sun; things now are about like they have always been. While the only constant in life is change; human nature changes little.

A prayer, thousands of years ago, is as timely, now, as it was then:

And then he prayed, “God, I’m asking for two things before I die; don’t refuse me—
Banish lies from my lips and liars from my presence.
Give me enough food to live on, neither too much nor too little.

If I’m too full, I might get independent, saying, ‘God? Who needs him?’
If I’m poor, I might steal and dishonor the name of my God.”

Just imagine a world without lies and liars. Every hurt, betrayal, and wrong in the universe originates from us lying to ourselves, or others; and, others lying to themselves, or us.

Then, after the lies are told, the day’s thoughts and actions, typically, revolve around the fears of scarcity, or abundance. What if there is not enough? What if the excess is stolen?

There are no luggage racks on hearses. We take nothing with us when we go. What we leave behind is important. Let’s, all, pause for a moment and look at our ripple in the pond, our wake in the lake, of life.

While impossible to ever go back and have a new beginning, we can choose, at any moment, to write a new ending to our story.

These two things are true and fulfilling:

All we do begins with a thought.
The fun is in the doing.

By focusing on these two things, the answer to the prayer above is guaranteed:

Truth will set us free.
Doing trumps the worries about too little, or too much!

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Innovators

Innovator is: all (IN); motivated by (NO); and a fearless combination of Darth Vader and Stealth Raptor (VATOR). They triumphantly raise the new over the objections of the old!

InnovatorsNew Creations

Doers are focused on Giddy-up Go!

Naysayers are happy with the Status Quo.

“Because something has been done a certain way,”

Is cause for the effect of “the same results each day.”

Those, seeking for a better way, know,

The secret to success is a passion to grow.

Doers are an enigma to the Naysayers.

Those who Do are ostracized by those who Can’t.

The ones who say, “It can’t be done.” are, by choice, in a rut. They might be comfortable there; yet, they have stopped growing. When individuals decide to stop growing, they start dying. The purest definition of a rut: a grave with the ends kicked out.

Let’s break down the word Innovator to see that of which they are made.

In-no-vator

In: They are all in, as in Committed. We might think of the Poker player, who goes “All in.” Or; we consider the athlete, who is “In the game.” Maybe, even, the warrior engaged “In battle.”

No: They are motivated by this little word. At the precise moment they hear it, they gear up. Where, just a heartbeat before, they were tempted to give up, think the goal impossible, believe the effort futile; now, they focus on doing what others say can’t be done.

Vator: They are a fearless combination of Darth Vader and Stealth Raptor. For those of the Star Wars generation, that fictional character was mysterious; for those patriotic souls with a belief in our national symbol, the swiftness and grandeur of the Eagle in flight is exhilarating.

All things new begin with a thought, by an innovator who believes in the “magic” of discovery. A sage proverb advises against stitching new onto old. That which has become old is no place to display that which is new; the new appears out-of-place and, in fact, makes the old look bad. The greater lesson is that, when stress is applied, the new will tear away from the old; the value of both will be diminished.

The moral of this story: For those happy in your ruts, look up to the edges of the known to observe those discovering new frontiers. For those innovators wondering why your efforts are received with less than enthusiastic response, remember and be encouraged: The joy is in the Doing and we learn by Doing; we will, always, enjoy the rewards from learning and growing!

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