What are the four attributes of every mutually beneficial dynamic relationship?
Relationships with those people we like are the most enjoyable. Yet, think of the relationships we also have with those less friendly. Think about every dynamic relationship.
In fact, think about this: we either have a relationship with someone; or, we don’t. There is no maybe to it.
So, what are the four attributes of every dynamic relationship?
The secret is in the adjective: dynamic.
- Of or relating to energy or to objects in motion
- Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress
- Marked by intensity and vigor; forceful
- Of or relating to variation
- An interactive system or process
- A force
- Characterized by personality, ambition, energy, new ideas
- Expressing action rather than a state of being; not static
Relationships are mutually chosen. In other words, it is a bond between two individuals, who mutually choose to connect. It is of freewill and unlimited in potential.
These are the Cornerstones:
Before we waltz out to establish a relationship with another person, it is imperative to know what is at the center of the individual. Not the other person; ourselves. Not in the plural sense. Singularly: Who am I? What do I believe? Why? When will my world view be challenged? How did I get to this point in my journey? Where am I going?
Once thought to be “common,” a simple Please and Thank You open the doors for Trust and Respect. Joining them are the character traits of Patience, Kindness, Truthfulness, Protectiveness, Hopefulness, and Perseverance. By simply caring about another person, we find the right, just, and fair things to say and do.
Life is a series of ups and downs. Some days we’re the windshield; some days we’re the bug. Yet, through it all, we have the choice to be happy, or sad; pleasant, or rude; optimistic, or pessimistic; engaged, or disconnected; flexible, or rigid; open, or closed. The ultimate choice is whether we can be true to ourselves and definitive in expressing, “I will.”
Talk to me; let me listen; then, accept my thoughts. Three phases to each exchange: Transmission, Reception, and Feedback. We all love to talk. Listening requires discipline. Feedback can only be done with the courage to be vulnerable. Communication is what the listener does. Please, hear and understand me. Simply, share you to be heard and understood.
If a structure is designed to have four supports, each must be solid and relatively equal in substance. Think of the last time you sat on a chair with one leg shorter than the others. You wobbled. If that weak leg is substantially defective, a crash is imminent.
Four at the corners is the foundation for a mutually fun, beneficial, chosen, dynamic relationship. By building on these cornerstones, we can select and nurture relationships, which exemplify energy, motion, change, activity, progress, intensity, vigor, variation, personality, ambition, and new ideas.
A force to make a difference in the lives of two, and many more!