Game of Life

We, individually, choose our game – the one we are able and willing to play. By making our choice, we can enjoy the great sport of life.

GamesAs encouragement for those struggling with a daily frustration, I will gently offer, “Just play the hand you’ve been dealt.”

Fairly good idea for these reasons:
• This, too, shall pass.
• Your cards might, actually, be better than anyone else’s at the moment.
• And, the fun is in the doing.

Before we launch off into the actual sport of the game, there is one question which has infinite possibilities, “What is the passion at the core of everything you do?

Your response will be different from mine. Mine will be different from anyone else’s. And, therein, is the secret to the Game of Life.

Each of us has the opportunity to choose the games we play.

Since life is the hand of cards to which we awake each morning, I admire those who play theirs with grace and poise. Strength of will and courage combined with the flexibility of thoughtfulness and humility results in a creativity that trumps bitterness every time.

Does that mean we play the games chosen for us by others? The simple and definitive answer is, “No.”

We, individually, choose our game. The one we are able and willing to play. Unless we choose, everyone will have an idea for us. That’s just a Universal Law of human nature.

Unless you’ve encountered a narcissist — enamored of their own visage in the mirror — each of us spends the day looking outward. As a result, it is so much easier to see the foibles of others and what they should do.

Reality check — Who is the only one within our sphere of control? (Hint: not anyone else.) Yes! The answer is a question:

“What is the passion at the core of everything you do?”

You — Me — One person at a time. We answer that.

Or, do we? Have YOU?

If so, then, you have chosen your game. You have studied the rules. You have engaged the competition. You have failed. You have succeeded. You have grown. You have learned.

You have studied even more — this time much harder. You have discovered what you didn’t know – before. More engagement, more failures, more successes, more growth —  and, now, you’re ready to teach.

Passion drives YOU forward.

Each day it will always be something — some days it’s just nice to know what ‘IT’ is.

Because we thrive on the challenge, nothing can upset or frustrate us. We know and have embraced the premise, “What doesn’t kill us will make us stronger.”

Let the games begin!

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Cornerstones

We can select and nurture dynamic relationships, which exemplify energy, motion, change, activity, progress, intensity, vigor, variation, personality, ambition, and new ideas.

Cornerstones

What are the four attributes of every mutually beneficial dynamic relationship?

Relationships with those people we like are the most enjoyable. Yet, think of the relationships we also have with those less friendly. Think about every dynamic relationship.

In fact, think about this: we either have a relationship with someone; or, we don’t. There is no maybe to it.

So, what are the four attributes of every dynamic relationship?

The secret is in the adjective: dynamic.

  • Of or relating to energy or to objects in motion
  • Characterized by continuous change, activity, or progress
  • Marked by intensity and vigor; forceful
  • Of or relating to variation
  • An interactive system or process
  • A force
  • Characterized by personality, ambition, energy, new ideas
  • Expressing action rather than a state of being; not static

Relationships are mutually chosen. In other words, it is a bond between two individuals, who mutually choose to connect. It is of freewill and unlimited in potential.

These are the Cornerstones:

  • Core
  • Courtesy
  • Commitment
  • Communication

Core

Before we waltz out to establish a relationship with another person, it is imperative to know what is at the center of the individual. Not the other person; ourselves. Not in the plural sense. Singularly: Who am I? What do I believe? Why? When will my world view be challenged? How did I get to this point in my journey? Where am I going?

Courtesy

Once thought to be “common,” a simple Please and Thank You open the doors for Trust and Respect. Joining them are the character traits of Patience, Kindness, Truthfulness, Protectiveness, Hopefulness, and Perseverance. By simply caring about another person, we find the right, just, and fair things to say and do.

Commitment

Life is a series of ups and downs. Some days we’re the windshield; some days we’re the bug. Yet, through it all, we have the choice to be happy, or sad; pleasant, or rude; optimistic, or pessimistic; engaged, or disconnected; flexible, or rigid; open, or closed. The ultimate choice is whether we can be true to ourselves and definitive in expressing, “I will.”

Communication

Talk to me; let me listen; then, accept my thoughts. Three phases to each exchange: Transmission, Reception, and Feedback. We all love to talk. Listening requires discipline. Feedback can only be done with the courage to be vulnerable. Communication is what the listener does. Please, hear and understand me. Simply, share you to be heard and understood.

If a structure is designed to have four supports, each must be solid and relatively equal in substance. Think of the last time you sat on a chair with one leg shorter than the others. You wobbled. If that weak leg is substantially defective, a crash is imminent.

Four at the corners is the foundation for a mutually fun, beneficial, chosen, dynamic relationship. By building on these cornerstones, we can select and nurture relationships, which exemplify energy, motion, change, activity, progress, intensity, vigor, variation, personality, ambition, and new ideas.

A force to make a difference in the lives of two, and many more!

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