A dream without fuel is simply a fantasy. The propulsion forward into reality is only possible with a force more powerful than TNT. Rather than blow up the bridges behind us to ensure motivation, we can leave them in place for the benefit of others and continue our journey, forward. We will use the one true force of accomplishment, TWT: The Want To.
Playing not to lose is entirely different from playing to win. Fighting to stay alive is a poor substitute for living to make a difference in the world.
While on the battlefield, it may be necessary to blow up bridges to protect a flank and motivate troops to focus on a forward objective. In our civilian arenas, let’s focus on leaving the past and ignoring the temptation to go back, by using a force greater than the physical. It is often given lip service and is known by its many names: Commitment; Self-control; Willpower. We will examine the powerful force of The Want To.
Those limited to physical resources will, always, be at a disadvantage to the individuals harnessing higher powers.
Character vs. Brute Strength
Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city.
Vulnerable to Attack
A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.
Lack of Focus
No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other.
By now, it is obvious that the inherent power of “The Want To” comes from a mental, emotional, and spiritual commitment to a single choice; by choosing one, we forego all others.
When asked to give a definition of the word Commitment, many are visibly puzzled and perplexed. Since a picture is worth a thousand words, the analogy of a skydiver relieves the tension and provides an image to explain commitment.
Simply: the skydiver is either in the plane; or, out of the plane. While those anchored to the ground want to debate the merits of “Try, Maybe and Fence-sitting”, there is never a “third” option. The choices are: In; or, Out.
At the moment our skydiver leaves the plane, there is no going back. They are committed to a rendezvous with the ground. Now, there are, still, two choices: Smack hard; or, land safely. Except for those with a death wish, the singular focus becomes one of enjoying the trip and executing a graceful touchdown.
Until one is committed
There is hesitancy, the chance to draw back,
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation),
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills countless ideas
And splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one
That would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision
Raising in one’s favor all manner
Of unforeseen incidents and meetings
And material assistance,
Which no person could have dreamt
Would have come their way.
I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
(—W. H. Murray, The Scottish Himalayan Expedition)
Those individuals with a life wish understand the importance of injecting The Want To into their decisions. They are able to live the Australian expression of, “No worries mate!” Their focus is on seeking, first, those facets of life more important than the physical. The lesson they learn: Easy is hard; hard is easy.
Doing right is harder than doing wrong. Building is harder than destroying. Asking, Seeking, and Knocking is harder than Whining, Hiding, and Pouting. Those fueled with TWT know that all of the physical goals and conquests will be theirs, too!