Many define their quest for a life partner as searching for their “other” half. Any definition of the word “half” refers to a state of “less than whole”. I’ve tried rolling half an orange across a table; it goes roll, thump! I believe we are of greater value to ourselves, and a partner, when we are “whole” and able to “roll” smoothly.
The thought du jour: I think the answer is found in mirrors and teeter-totters.
Regardless of how attractive we are to others, when we look in the mirror we see someone with whom we are comfortable. We see our flaws, give a sigh and fantasize what it would be like to be different. In a way, that’s a good thing. If within our control, we have the opportunity to grow. Yet, before we turn away, we are accepting, forgiving, and, if mature, confident of what we have to offer the world.
Think of how our reflection, although reversed, responds to our every action. If I extend my right hand, the guy in the mirror offers his left hand in return. If I need a smile and offer one, he gives it back. What we give is what we receive. I believe when we find our partner, the same will be true. We will be looking at a mirror image of who we are. It is part of that universal principle, “Like attracts like.”
Equally as true is another universal principle, “Opposites attract.” Although it seems as though we have a paradox, I believe these opposing and contradictory statements actually offer a glimpse into what holds our world in orbit. The earth hangs perfectly in balance between North and South, East and West.
For electricity to flow there is a Positive and a Negative, for accounting systems to balance there are Debits and Credits: the principle of the magnetic Plus and Minus. It takes both. Remember when we were kids and it was OK to have teeter-totters? Sometimes they were fun and sometimes we walked away with a pain in the rear. It all depended on the partner, right?!
If an equal was on the board with us, fun was to be enjoyed. Up and Down we went. It was a relationship which required two, whole and relatively equal participants. In essence, the relationship was mirrored, opposite, and balanced. At the center of the action and our board was a fulcrum. In any relationship, that is Trust and Respect.
There is one reality to these reflections and tummy ticklers, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and we voluntarily give of ourselves to receive the love of another.”